with a couple with
I am sorry to hear about your wife's problems.
A woman's emotional system is much more sensitive than men, but we
do not often understand that.
Regarding your part in loving her I would like to offer a few
The word "loving" is quite often misunderstood. Many think
only in an emotional, and not in a practical way.
1 John 3:18 "My
children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in
in truth." Here we have both the emotional and
side of love. Word and tongue (emotional) deed and truth
# 1 To tell her that you love her, also to hug and caress
the emotional side of love. When you come home from a hard
work, it is best to meet your wife with a big hug and kiss.
likewise important that she do the same. This is often a relief
both after a tiring day. A woman needs this part, so does a
# 2 To show her that love in a practical way is to help her
the menial tasks about the home. Like washing the dishes, when she
tired out. Diapering the baby now and then. Cleaning the
after dinner. I just got through doing that to our glass top
Yesterday, my wife said she was tired when I brought in five
strawberries. I told her to sit down, and I hulled and got them
for freezing. She appreciated that.
Now, in Eph 5: we have the best advice for a marriage. Here
some of it:
V. 22 Wives,
yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of
church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Here in the model marriage the
wife is to submit herself to her husband, her head.
this to the church and Christ.
Here is the husband's part;
- Husbands, love your wives, even as
Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
That he might sanctify and
it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present
glorious church, not having
or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and
The application in: V.28
ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that
wife loveth himself.
A wife has a hard time
to a husband that does not love her both emotionally and
Here is the wife part: V.33 Nevertheless
let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as
and the wife see
that she reverence her
Putting this all together it
simple means that a husband has a difficult time loving a wife
not submissive and a wife has the
same difficulty with submitting to
husband that is not loving, both emotionally and practically.
a man is occupied with so much in the world in order that he might
the bread winner for the family. His mind is, and has to be, often
from the home, and family. The wife lives twenty-four hours of her
with the home and family. She has a greater need in the home than
of the husband.
Men respond well to big thing that happen in life, whereas, a wife
made happy with many little things. Just a helping hand now and
and a little word of praise goes a long ways with wives.
My prayer is that both you and ?? will set scriptural guide lines
Do keep me informed. Written to help.
All comments and
questions to: Harold Smith
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Updated January 23rd,
2014 by Sandra